If I can't do a high-elbow catch, I'll never get a date.
They do have amazing bodies. One of the nice things about my lessons with the Swede is that the crowd there is young muscley guys, who are both pleasing to look at and competitive-making; not like the fat old dudes who swim at my local pool.
Well, understand "accusation" in the sense of something that makes the person asked defensive. Eg, "Are you trying to make up for the fact that you can't please your husband sexually by learning to cook?"
But in that case the implicit accusation is "you can't please your husband sexually"; even if the person in question can't, and sort of knows it, it brings it once more to the fore, which is unpleasant and renders defensive. But you introduced this topic.
I'm not sure that matters. What makes me (or the hypothetical person) defensive isn't the first part (catch, sex), but the devaluing of the second part as merely compensatory.
Ben, aren't you in graduate school? Disagreeing with people for no reason is an important life skill. Right up there with procrastinating by commenting on blogs and thinking of ridiculously overcomplicated solutions to non-problems.
You don't need a therapist, ogged. What you need is a date.
I'm just saying.
Posted by mcm | Link to this comment | 12-15-04 8:40 PM
It's worth obsessing over. Swimmers have amazing bodies.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-15-04 8:56 PM
If I can't do a high-elbow catch, I'll never get a date.
They do have amazing bodies. One of the nice things about my lessons with the Swede is that the crowd there is young muscley guys, who are both pleasing to look at and competitive-making; not like the fat old dudes who swim at my local pool.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 12:16 AM
Are you trying to make up for not being able to do a high-elbow catch by demonstrating your lack of homophobia?
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 8:56 AM
That's the strangest thing anyone's ever accused me of.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 8:58 AM
That's an accusation?
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 10:36 AM
Well, understand "accusation" in the sense of something that makes the person asked defensive. Eg, "Are you trying to make up for the fact that you can't please your husband sexually by learning to cook?"
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 10:41 AM
But in that case the implicit accusation is "you can't please your husband sexually"; even if the person in question can't, and sort of knows it, it brings it once more to the fore, which is unpleasant and renders defensive. But you introduced this topic.
Posted by ben wolfson | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 10:56 AM
I'm not sure that matters. What makes me (or the hypothetical person) defensive isn't the first part (catch, sex), but the devaluing of the second part as merely compensatory.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 10:59 AM
I was just teasing. Apologies.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:12 AM
I'm not offended; just explaining to the ever-contentious b-dub what could be considered offensive. Apology rejected.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:15 AM
Oh, ok then. I'll return to giving you shit as soon as I can think of something clever to say.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:18 AM
Ogged,
You are right. I will try not to do disagree with people for no reason in the future.
Posted by ben wolfson | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:23 AM
The day is young...
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:23 AM
Ben, aren't you in graduate school? Disagreeing with people for no reason is an important life skill. Right up there with procrastinating by commenting on blogs and thinking of ridiculously overcomplicated solutions to non-problems.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:28 AM
Ben, now you bore me.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:32 AM
Two out of three important life skills down stone cold ain't bad, right? (And I'm not in grad school.)
Don't worry, ogged, I'm sure I'll return to capering for your amusement in the near future.
Posted by ben wolfson | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:42 AM
Oh. Well, you clearly have the grad school skill set. Maybe you are too smart for grad school.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 11:43 AM
Why don't the fat old dude swimmers have amazing bodies? Did they used to?
Posted by Mitch Mills | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 1:22 PM
Well, my dad swims, and he doesn't look too bad for a 60yo guy, but I'm not going to say he has a "great body," b/c, ick.
Posted by bitchphd | Link to this comment | 12-16-04 2:09 PM
Sigh, can we talk about cool sports now? I've got that winter bug.
I'm all for sports bods, of course.
Posted by cw | Link to this comment | 12-17-04 7:00 AM
Mitch,
Not that I can really rate dude's bodies, but I'm guessing that there is "amazing" and there is "amazing for a 60-year old."
Posted by Tripp | Link to this comment | 12-17-04 9:25 AM
thinking of ridiculously overcomplicated solutions to non-problems.
First ya gotta shed pseudo-light on them...
Posted by Matt Weiner | Link to this comment | 12-17-04 10:12 AM