Re: Casual

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The devil on my shoulder is telling me that it would be funny to have write-ups of Unfogged-mediated hookups, in which people would recognize themselves. But then Heebie would look at all your IP addresses. WOULDN'T YOU, HEEBIE?


Posted by: ogged | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 7:51 PM
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When describing casual hookups on unfogged, always use protection (i.e. Tor).


Posted by: Sifu Tweety | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 7:57 PM
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"Reader, I fucked him."


Posted by: JP Stormcrow | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 8:38 PM
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"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a blowjob."


Posted by: JP Stormcrow | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 8:39 PM
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"Four score and seven years ago."

Wait. I don't understand the game.


Posted by: Moby Hick | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 8:45 PM
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I have only had very formal unfogged-mediated hookups. Cummerbunds and the whole deal.


Posted by: nosflow | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 8:46 PM
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As Unfogged ages, hook-up threads will become reviews of RV parks.


Posted by: fake accent | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 9:04 PM
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I feel like I should post something because the ones I've, well, skimmed have been boring, but on the other hand no.


Posted by: Mister Smearcase | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 9:29 PM
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I feel like I've already contributed more than enough of this particular type of narrative.


Posted by: teofilo | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 9:38 PM
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The concept seems like it would provide good data for a researcher to have, if not a good story.


Posted by: Minivet | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 10:23 PM
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Yeah, their About page explains a lot about the point of the site, and why the stories are in the rather unsexy format they are.


Posted by: teofilo | Link to this comment | 06- 1-14 10:27 PM
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1: this is frowned upon?


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 12:15 AM
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Kidding of course, everbody. Keep recklessly sharing your darkest secrets.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 12:16 AM
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Nice try, heebs. Also, sorry about the insomnia.


Posted by: teofilo | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 12:19 AM
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Thanks. It's back with a vengeance.

I've half suspected that melatonin may be a placebo, but it worked great. Then my MIL bought me a different brand, which coincided with this latest streak of insomnia. If I go buy my old brand, I'm pretty much confirming that I need my specific placebo regime, though, which might undercut its magic placebo powers.

OTOH, maybe fruity hippie drugs are so inconsistently meted out that 3 mg means something different in different brands.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 12:41 AM
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As Unfogged ages, hook-up threads will become reviews of RV parks.

Along with nearby spots to score home-brewed biodiesel.


Posted by: simulated annealing | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 2:32 AM
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OTOH, maybe fruity hippie drugs are so inconsistently meted out that 3 mg means something different in different brands.

Eh, not just unregulated hippie drugs. Back when I was on the BCP, I was given a different generic than usual one month that, within a day, rendered me unable to go outside without the sunlight stabbing me with a million tiny stakes in my eyes. I guess that's not the same as one working and the other not. Still: obviously different stuff in there!


Posted by: Blume | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 3:43 AM
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My net nanny won't allow me to visit this site, but I do recall reading the Penthouse Forum on a couple of occasions way back in the Dark Ages. Casual sex was more exciting back then -- maybe because of the dark.


Posted by: peep | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:11 AM
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How horribly dry the linked piece is. Clinical and boring.


Posted by: togolosh | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:29 AM
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There has got to be some value to clinical studies on the modalities of getting laid, though, yes?


Posted by: Spike | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:37 AM
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Casual sex was more exciting back then -- maybe because of the dark.

Nothing like casual sex where you have no clue who your partner is. I remember once being passionately kissed by someone when I was literally too drunk to see who it was, and nobody ever copped to it. 40 years on, I still wonder occasionally if I'm bored enough.


Posted by: chris y | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:44 AM
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40 years on, I still wonder occasionally if I'm bored enough.

Well, I guess it is nice to know I'll probably still be recriminating about missed opportunities for hook-ups in the 1990s when I'm in my 60s. Something to look forward to.


Posted by: Natilo Paennim | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:56 AM
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21: I can keep it from you no longer! It was me!


Posted by: Queen Elizabeth | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 7:58 AM
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I kissed chris y!


Posted by: Spartacus | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 8:01 AM
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20: And a web survey is a great way to general useful data about sexual encounters for a well-randomized population, right?


Posted by: ydnew | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 8:02 AM
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It was me, but keep it on the DL.


Posted by: Rumplestiltskin | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 8:02 AM
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I don't recriminate, I'm just intrigued. Probably whoever it was was too drunk to know who they were kissing, but I hope I didn't let anybody down by falling off my chair and going to sleep.


Posted by: chris y | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 8:04 AM
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Skimming through some of them, it seems quite a few of them had good sex but the format is clinical.


Posted by: teraz kurwa my | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 9:24 AM
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Can anybody explain this one to me?:

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddy that turned into friends-with-benefits

I thought those were two terms for the same thing.


Posted by: MAE | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 9:48 AM
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I don't know how the terms are used in reality, but I'd read that as transitioning from acquaintances who only have social contact when they're having sex, to actual friends who also have sex.


Posted by: LizardBreath | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 9:50 AM
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(My sense of how the usage differs in reality is that fuck-buddy originated among gay men, and friends-with-benefits was straight college kids or twentysomethings. So no real difference in meaning, but originating in different communities, which is going to affect the connotations. But I may be completely off base as a matter of the history of the terms.)


Posted by: LizardBreath | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 9:56 AM
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30 Same about lack of knowledge about how kids-these-days actually use it, but with a similar understanding except minus the transition part, at least necessarily. That is, a relationship that revolves around booty calls is 'fuck buddy,' while one that's friends who routinely hang out and occasionally hook up are 'friends with benefits'.


Posted by: teraz kurwa my | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 10:42 AM
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Yeah, the transitioning bit was only from the quoted sentence ("turned into").


Posted by: LizardBreath | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 10:45 AM
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21: I'm reminded of a party many, many years ago where I started making out with someone so he'd stop singing. There were a bunch of people singing, and I was enjoying it, and this guy was loud, off key, and not otherwise unattractive.


Posted by: Anne Boleyn | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 11:02 AM
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You probably managed to convince the guy that he sang so well women will kiss him because of his voice and thus you caused him to sing at every future chance.


Posted by: Moby Hick | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 11:04 AM
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Every plan has the potential for collateral damage.


Posted by: Anne Boleyn | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 11:05 AM
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34: And he turned out to be such a great kisser that you married him. And then years later you told him the truth about why you first kissed him -- that he had a terrible voice -- and he had you executed.


Posted by: peep | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 11:07 AM
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Also, while I don't remember exactly, it's not impossible that I explained my thought process to him while we were making out. I'm an overly honest drunk, and it would have been in character.


Posted by: Anne Boleyn | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 11:07 AM
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Vaguely related, what's the best social history of sex? I've established that it wasn't actually invented the year they lifted the Chatterly ban and the Beatles' first LP, but aside from a few big social history signposts (cars! the Pill!) I'm never quite clear on just how much fucking people did, throughout history.


Posted by: k-sky | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 1:37 PM
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Not all of history, but a very relevant part of it:

The Education of the Senses: The Bourgeois Experience by Peter Gay.


Posted by: idp | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 1:54 PM
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Thank you! I would read more Peter Gay.


Posted by: k-sky | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 3:06 PM
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I should trying singing in public more often, and see it it works.


Posted by: CharleyCarp | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 3:23 PM
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Fuck buddies are people you do nothing but sex with, fwb are friends you sleep with sometimes.


Posted by: OPINIONATED FWB | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 4:02 PM
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For some reason I'm envisioning collecting people whose number of partners is has a wide distribution across time scales . . .i.e. 1-3 one night stands, a couple fortnight flings, a couple seasonal liasions, a couple of semi-annual affairs, a couple of 1 year relationships, a couple of 5 year cohabitations, a couple of 10 year marriages, a couple of 20 year marriages. . . .(very active late 90s year olds?) . . . and have them rate them for sex awesomeness andtotal interval of awesome sex within the connection period. And then figuring out if there's some optimal relationship length that maximizes total amount of awesome sex over the course of a long life.
Not that such a study makes any sense, I just find it an oddly charming hypothetical data set and ensuing computation.


Posted by: Ile | Link to this comment | 06- 2-14 4:57 PM
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"One time, I was in DC and my gf grabbed this girl's ass. Her initials were HG."


Posted by: will | Link to this comment | 06- 3-14 5:36 AM
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44. Kind of a tough thing to look at in isolation-- a basically happy outlook and good health seem more important than the logistical points surveyed. Both make it a lot easier to act on the moments when you see someone else as just really wonderful.

Filling out a detailed questionnaire doesn't bring out the best writing. Maybe starting with a suggestion for a photo that captures mood and then some free-form text would be better.


Posted by: lw | Link to this comment | 06- 3-14 6:42 AM
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