This sounds like the wit and wisdom of Donald Trump. Racism used to be a problem, but ...

I mean, it's the sort of thing people use as an excuse of inaction. It's a cousin of "Nobody ever said life was fair." The best way to make life more fair is to try to.

For instance, I feel like I get too verbose in comments, and I'm working on it. I

haven't overcorrected.

I took it to mean more like when someone is backpedaling after sending a poorly worded email, then they end up in a place further away than the properly worded email would have landed.

I don't think it applies to significant societal problems that were never fixed in the first place.

Hopped up beer is definitely an overcorrection.

Not entirely off topic: Speaking of overcorrection, the stock market hit bottom one year ago today, after lockdown and just before Congress got serious about the first stimulus package. Which means today is the day to check the 1 year return on your 401K and feel like an investment genius. Save a screenshot!

30.24%
Somehow that seems low to me. Didn't the overall market go up like 50% from the bottom?

It's 76 percent for the S&P 500.

The advice reminds me of pulling out of a skid while driving.

It reminds me how if I ever snip at Jammies over something, he puts a fence around it and never ever comes within 200 miles of the offending circumstance again, and the overcompensation sort of drives me crazy because I wasn't trying to control him. I just had a gripe.

Mostly it makes him a very good spouse. Every now and then a mostly good trait still grates.

I feel sorry for the old people who were married for sixty years and died of covid within minutes of each other. Imagine waiting that long to see who gets the last word and then you both lose.

I mean, it was probably worse for their kids and grandkids. But still.

28.66%. I guess I was over-allocated in bonds.

I can't find it at the moment, but I recently saw a scientific paper that argued the difference between the best- and worst-performing subjects on a learning task was that the best performers made fewer unnecessary changes - i.e. they were quicker to isolate what was actually making a difference and concentrate on it, rather than changing multiple factors at once.

Oh for fuck's sake. Apparently when I did my yearly traditional-to-Roth IRA conversion thing, I forgot to actually put it in the right place, so I had it all just sitting in a money market fund for a year.

16: I did an even dumber thing, if it makes you feel better. Because we had extra money (no vacation!), I set up an IRA for AJ in addition to his other retirement accounts. It turned out they changed the 2019 deadline when they moved the tax deadline, so I put in 2019 and 2020 contributions. Then, I didn't do the next step of making sure it made it into actual interest-earning accounts, so it sat in some holding pattern (like a true savings account) and gained all of $2.44. I looked at it when I did our taxes and couldn't believe how dumb that was.

I totaled a car and then had the basement flood. I put what was left into having wine shipped to the house.

I intentionally pulled money out of the market prior to Election Day in case things went to shit. Nothing too conservative, I was still like 75% in stocks, and since oldest kid is going to college in a couple years I moved his accounts to mostly cash or shorter term target funds. But I've been slow to reinvest and now feel like I'm buying in at a high point in the market. But this is just stupid retrospective regret- things almost did go to shit so it probably wasn't overly cautious. I might as well wonder why I didn't buy Bitcoin when it went back under $5k a couple years ago, except that if I'd been lazy and completely ignored investments (as is generally recommended) I'd have 20% better returns.

You could get just as much mileage from the claim, "most corrections are undercorrections". There's an air of profundity and the mind leaps to supply examples (or counter examples, depending) but it's just pattern matching.

If most of your corrections are overcorrections, try adjusting the D term on your PID controller.

"most corrections are undercorrections"

This may be an improvement, but I think it goes too far.

11 makes me feel very seen. It's really hard for me not to internally emotionally escalate when RWM is mildly irked by something into a bigger deal that I need to never do again or I'm a bad partner.

I see the guy who knows control theory has turned up and told everyone he knows control theory so I'll just leave the point I was going to make there.

I'm projecting from what was in the end a bad marriage, but Tim and I had that dynamic. There didn't seem to be any way to raise an issue as a problem without it being a devastating experience for him. At which point mostly I didn't raise things as problems.

This was not, ultimately, a good way to manage things.

Fine, but I still don't see what pelvic inflammatory disease has to do with the price of tea in China.

I feel like there's an OPINIONATED SIR ISAAC NEWTON joke to be made.

Yeah, I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm devastated, it's more an issue of me turning things that are 2/10 into 5/10. But some of that is that things are generally healthy, if lots of 6/10 bad things were happening I'd be turning them into 9/10 and then would be devastated.

There is never an OPINIONATED joke to be made.

That was me, as you probably knew.

I've cut down.

CONTROL theory is oppositional to KAOS theory.

"Errors are easy, corrections are hard"?

clew!!

Minivet!!