Re: Hey, Mamas

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Sorry, dude.


Posted by: FL | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 10:32 AM
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Is this some sick sort of titty joke?


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 10:50 AM
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I can tell you're a good son, Ogged. Like most successful men, you probably call your mother daily.


Posted by: mq's Mom | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:30 AM
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mq's Mom gets it exactly right!


Posted by: ogged | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:33 AM
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Actually, this post just inspired me to call my Mom, and it turns out she was out having Mother's Day drinks with *another* mother whose sons lived far away. She told me I had to call back in a few hours because she didn't want to ignore her friend!

I don't know how I feel about this.


Posted by: mq | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:35 AM
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Mq, that's awesome.

And thanks, Ogged. Do let me know what your mom did to get you to call her every day, so that I can make sure and do the same.


Posted by: bitchphd | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:49 AM
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She freaks out and assumes I'm dead if she doesn't hear from me. Can you hack that? You have to put in the work to get results, B.


Posted by: ogged | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:52 AM
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Crap. I was hoping it was some true love thing. Guess I'll have to resign myself to obligatory monthly phone calls like Labs bothers with.


Posted by: bitchphd | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:54 AM
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7: That must make for awesome April Fool's opportunities.


Posted by: SomeCallMeTim | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:56 AM
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Oh stop. I call weekly. Of course, my mother insisted on sensible haircuts.


Posted by: FL | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:56 AM
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She freaks out and assumes I'm dead if she doesn't hear from me.

For example, my grandma starts calling my aunts and uncles - and even grandchildren! - when my mom fails to answer the callwaiting.

"Heebie! Heebie! This is your grandmother! I tried to call your mother, and the phone rang and rang!"
"She's probably on the other line, grandma."
"But the answering machine didn't pick up!"
"Probably on the other line."
"Have you talked to her recently? You'd better call her, Heebie."
Bring, bring
"Mom? You're there? I'm so grateful you're not Grandma."
"Thanks, Heebie."
"Call Grandma. She's freaking out."


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 11:59 AM
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Oh, you're all better children than I am. I really dread calling my mom.


Posted by: bitchphd | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:01 PM
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Ah, B, heed 11. Having a crazy grandma will make PK doubly appreciate sane Mom.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:03 PM
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To be sincere: the men I've known with close relationships with their mothers are, most notably, able to talk to them about anything.

Now, this is not rocket science.

However. I'm talking about messages like: Mom, this woman I've just been seeing and semi-living with for 3 months just fucked off and disappeared suddenly for 2 days. I finally found her and she says she's fallen in love with someone else, and I am freaking out. Etc.

Manage to make a relationship with your son wherein he will want to talk to you, his mother, about something like this, and you've got it made.

Nothin' to hide, in other words.


Posted by: parsimon | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:03 PM
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So far PK loves my mom. One of the things I've learned as an adult is that good parents (like my dad, for all his flaws) keep their issues with their own parents to themselves. As a result, though, the kids idolize their grandparents, which probably makes the parents gnash their teeth.

My mom, on the other hand, didn't even go to her mother's funeral.


Posted by: bitchphd | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:05 PM
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My mom once told me that she tries to keep in mind the advice: "Keep your mouth shut and your door open."


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:07 PM
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15 - I adore my grandma. I have the smoothest relationship with her of anyone, probably. But as an adult, I appreciate deeply that growing up under grandma would have been hell, and Mom did an amazing job not reproducing those features in her own family.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:08 PM
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It's not all sweetness and light with my mom. We've worked out, over the years, things she is not allowed to bring up or opine upon--mostly she respects the boundaries, and we mostly get along.


Posted by: ogged | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:09 PM
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My mom called me this morning.


Posted by: ben w-lfs-n | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:10 PM
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I had to leave the country and not call my family for six months to finally set some boundaries for my mom, but these days we get along great. Happy Moms' Day, mom. (It's pretty unlikely that she reads Unfogged, so I left her a message too).

Also, MLB is doing a Mothers' Day commemoration today, with most of the players using pink Louisville Sluggers and wearing pink armbands for breast cancer awareness. It's kind of sweet.


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:23 PM
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I should call my mom.


Posted by: teofilo | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:29 PM
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Also, MLB is doing a Mothers' Day commemoration today, with most of the players using pink Louisville Sluggers and wearing pink armbands for breast cancer awareness. It's kind of sweet.

Oh yeah, baseball's totally a sport.


Posted by: SomeCallMeTim | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:31 PM
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15, 16:

One of the things I've learned as an adult is that good parents (like my dad, for all his flaws) keep their issues with their own parents to themselves.

Keep your mouth shut and your door open.

mm, I'm not sure about all this.

The dictum "If you ignore it, it will go away" can do a great deal of damage.

I realize that's not quite what's being said. And certainly, doling out reservations and criticism of the grandparents to mere children wouldn't be a good idea.

Once the kids become nascent grown-ups, however, being kept in the dark about family history is not necessarily a great idea.


Posted by: parsimon | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:33 PM
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I realize that's not quite what's being said.

Yes, it's not.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:46 PM
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Off topic, but I love Paul from Powerline's lacrosse coverage:

Duke endured a two hour rain delay in this match, but that's not much of a wait compared to the lose of virtually an entire season due to bogus rape allegation.

My grandmother never gave me anything-- she was too busy being raped by Cossacks.


Posted by: FL | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:48 PM
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Hey Tim, do you kiss your mother with that cynicism?


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:51 PM
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Basketball players send their moms Mothers' Day cards from jail.


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:53 PM
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Teachers send their moms Mother's Day cards with class.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:56 PM
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Divers send their moms Mother's Day cards deeper.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:56 PM
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Brick layers send their mom's Mother's Day cards harder.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:57 PM
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Repeat ad nauseum.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:57 PM
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Heebie, you're kind of creeping me out.


Posted by: FL | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 12:58 PM
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Has Josh Beckett no mother?


Posted by: CharleyCarp | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 1:04 PM
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*heavy breathing*

Why, Fontana?


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 1:09 PM
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Beckett is trying to establish how much of a mother he is today.


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 1:12 PM
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...and then mother's day took a turn for the weird...


Posted by: FL | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 1:13 PM
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Looks like Beckett's not going to tie the Babe this year.

My wife pointed out that -- nothing against breast cancer research -- there are probably other women's health issues that more urgently need awareness raised on Mother's Day. Like heart disease, for example.


Posted by: mrh | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 2:14 PM
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Now, Labs, moms get to have sex too.


Posted by: bitchphd | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 2:47 PM
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38: Indeed, sex is a vital part of the training to be a mom. I'm told.


Posted by: Stanley | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:09 PM
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There's two kinds of mothers, I'm told.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:24 PM
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CharleyCarp! mrh! Holy shit! w00t!!1!


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:25 PM
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40: Oh. Right.


Posted by: Stanley | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:33 PM
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At least according to Merle.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:36 PM
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Dude, Jesus, that was awesome. What in the hell was Perlozzo thinking in the ninth?


Posted by: mrh | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 3:48 PM
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So, as the top of the ninth ends, I look at tclock, and see I really have to be getting home. You know, it being Mothers Day and all (and there being a feeling that a husband is supposed to make as big a fuss as kids). It's looking pretty hopeless anyway. Crisp gets on and Papi doubles him home, so it's not gioing to be a humiliation, anyway.

So I switch off the computer, and head off to the subway.

Holy shit!

The lesson here is clear: watch the game, and let the missus wait.


Posted by: CharleyCarp | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 4:17 PM
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The wife says no, that the lesson is that there's a reason God created MLB TV's archives.

For today, in honor of motherhood, this will suffice.


Posted by: CharleyCarp | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 4:21 PM
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I nearly took my mom to a baseball game today, but she'd had enough sun from the botantical gardens yesterday: we went to the Met instead. But she loves baseball.


Posted by: Jackmormon | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 4:50 PM
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I love my mother dearly...from a distance.

Actually, I see her every couple of days and try to speak with her virtually every day.

I am terrified of what happened to my friend. Her dad died alone in his house on a Thursday. It took a week before someone decided to check on him.


Posted by: will | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 4:50 PM
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Our house was on a Mother's Day house tour today, so we had tremendous stress getting her.

My kids gave my gf "Step-Hottie Day" cards. They love her with affection and attachment bordering on obsessive.


Posted by: will | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 4:52 PM
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Step-Hottie

If that's really how your kids refer to your girlfriend that's simultaneously awesome and kinda creepy. Nicely done.


Posted by: mrh | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:09 PM
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And the Yankees lose, so it's a good day for moms and a good day for baseball. Now I crave apple pie.


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:23 PM
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50: My son kept asking whether to refer to her as a step-mom. She thought it sounded way to old, so he said "how about Step-hottie?"

My family is weird. My brother's wife is known as "the Russian Vixen."


Posted by: will | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:29 PM
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My mom would have enjoyed watching the Yankees lose. I was going to take her to Shea, though, if she'd been interested and the Mets were playing. Someday I'd like to show her how New Yorkers boo.


Posted by: Jackmormon | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:37 PM
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It was a good day to be at Shea, as long as you weren't a Brewers fan. Hey, did you like Orfeo?


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:44 PM
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I liked the music, I liked the staging, but I was in a shite mood (because of the roommate thing) and found fault with the counter-tenor and the choreography.

Counter-tenors have a tough row to hoe: they really don't have quite the power that the castrati had or that the mezzos have. And I had forgotten to steel myself against my prejudices about Mark Morris's choreography and found myself gradually rediscovering all the things that had annoyed me before. It's a short opera, so I didn't quite have time to get over those annoyances after I'd rediscovered them.

It's too bad my mom was too pooped for a Mets game. It really would have been fun to watch her be shocked at the booing.

(I've got to go away now.)


Posted by: Jackmormon | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 5:52 PM
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There's two kinds of mothers, I'm told.

Those with loaded guns and those who dig?


Posted by: washerdreyer | Link to this comment | 05-13-07 9:21 PM
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re: 55

I like the sound counter-tenors make, but I've heard similar complaints about their power in live performance from other people (I've never seen a counter-tenor sing live myself). Orfeo is a great opera, though (and I say this as someone who doesn't really like opera much).

I suspect counter-tenor singing is best suited to chamber music settings; on lute songs, or similar material.


Posted by: nattarGcM ttaM | Link to this comment | 05-14-07 12:08 AM
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I have a friend who's a counter-tenor, and yeah, better in the smaller setting.


Posted by: alameida | Link to this comment | 05-14-07 5:14 AM
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