Christian Husbands - let me be crystal clear here. The situation I am addressing in this post is not your wife occasionally turning you down for sex (even with a bad attitude, as opposed to for health or other legitimate reasons). What I am addressing here is the wife who consistently and routinely denies her husband sexually simply because she does not need sex as much or she thinks she should not have to do it except when she is in the mood or she thinks her husband should have to earn sex with her by "putting her in the mood" by doing various things she expects or likes.
At times he seems to be actually wrestling with the very real dilemma of mismatched sex drives within a married couple. At other times, he advocates taking away her credit cards.
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The sex lives of Harvard undergraduates seem entirely unremarkable, despite this article's eagerness to make something of it.Comments (27)
Very nice interactive quiz/explanation from the Times about the relationship between parental income and college attendance. Draw your line and I'll show you mine (it was pretty wrong).Comments (36)
Are developers generally assholes? Heebieville is plagued by out-of-state developers who are rich enough to get city council to let them build incredibly ill-conceived apartment complexes (ie, environmentally sensitive zones, flood plains, and so on), which are also built super-shittily (they start sinking, they flood, every possible corner has been cut). Students apparently want to live in brand new apartments, and so they fill up, the developer sells the complex off and wipes their hands of the whole affair. Then the students move on to the next new complex and the town is stuck with another shitty, poorly made, ill-planned, flood-prone environmentally destructive apartment complex. (The floods this past weekend were much worse because of these complexes being built on what had been flood plains, and so these were now concrete, raised planes and all the water rolled right off into neighborhoods.)
Our post office and govenment offices used to be housed right downtown. Apparently there is an out-of-state developer who specifically specializes in flipping post offices and government buildings, because there is substantial regulations and paperwork around these things. So the developer came in, navigated the regulations, got the post office moved to a cheaper part of town, and flipped the valuable space into a bunch of chain stores.
It's infuriating to watch these sorts of decisions get influenced by massive outside money. Yes, we can organize and be activists, but all that is a PITA - can't they just stop aggressively wrecking our city?Comments (99)
Read to the end. LaCour is going to brazen it out and this will not end will for him. Hard to fathom what he's thinking.Comments (196)
At what age would a kid start to reveal procrastination tendencies? I'm not at all worried about Hawaii, and the others are far too young to worry about. This was just idle musing, trying to recall my own childhood.
I don't think I exactly procrastinated in middle school, because my horizon on tasks didn't work that way yet - I either did the task or forgot entirely that it existed. When I had to be reminded several times, I think I just procrastinated a minute or two until I genuinely forgot. But maybe that's a younger stage that I'm remembering.
I have concrete memories of procrastinating on papers and things in high school. And of generally dragging my feet and being a pain in the ass about chores around the house. It's hard to remember specifics, though.
(Also: I know it's developmentally normal for kids to tell lies, but I was not prepared for the sheer quantity of nearly nonstop lying every time it suits their purposes. Wow, kids, your pants are long incinerated.)Comments (158)
I've been working occasionally as a bartender in the last few weeks. I tended bar previously in my mid-twenties at a music venue, and now I'm at more of an undergrad hangout. Mostly, I feel old.
One weird thing I've noticed: a lot of people ask for drink recommendations. Almost without exception these are newly-of-age folks, who are still figuring out what drinks they like at bars.
And I usually ask what kind of liquor they like. I might ask: sour, sweet, bitter? Coke, Sprite, Ginger Ale, or fruit juice preference (from OJ, pineapple, cranberry, lime, and lemon)? And sometimes I ask their favorite drink and just make a newfangled version of that drink.
It's weird to me because, thinking back to my undergrad days, I never remember asking the bartender to make a specific recommendation. Blandings and Jackmormon once took me to a bar in Brooklyn where making up drinks on-the-spot was explicitly A Thing That Bar Did. But I can't really recall ever walking up to the bar and saying, "I want a mixed drink, but I don't know what to get."Comments (126)