Re: Solemn but not poker-faced.

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Like being silly and jokey is an elevated state requiring extra energy, instead of my default. Also I'm taking things personally, where I used to attribute everything to the other person's baggage with a grand, dismissive, sweep of my hand.

That's a pretty good description of how a feel all the time. Being fun is very tiring, and it is safe to assume most things are my fault.

If I knew a way to get out of this mental state, I wouldn't need medication. You've got my sympathies, though. Especially about your mom.


Posted by: rob helpy-chalk | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 11:23 AM
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Remember, it could have been all of that, and with John McCain President and Sarah Palin VP. I have shamelessly used that scenario as an emotional stop-loss for the past 9 months.


Posted by: JP Stormcrow | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 11:35 AM
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Then don't post till you feel like it.

You're exhausted and under unbelievable stress, of course you don't feel like the life and soul of the party. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT (repeat three times after every meal). Do the essentials only, enjoy your kid, and make time to relax.

Even if you don't post, we're all rooting for you.


Posted by: OFE | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 11:36 AM
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I just want to tell you good luck. We're all rooting for you.


Posted by: Dr. Rumack | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 11:41 AM
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Thanks you all. Appreciated.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 11:53 AM
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also, you're ssssooooo good looking.


Posted by: bend | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 12:28 PM
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Kids are a huge energy drain. But eventually they get to where they can run errands.


Posted by: LizardBreath | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 1:36 PM
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Seriously, the first year of your first kid's life is the most taxing, crazy-making time in a person's life.

It does get better. Not only will they do errands, they can fetch you a beer and grade multiple choice tests.


Posted by: rob helpy-chalk | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 1:47 PM
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Yeah, my thoughts are with you and your Mom.


Posted by: Bostoniangirl | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 3:27 PM
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Solemn seems appropriate. Good luck with everything.


Posted by: Parenthetical | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 3:56 PM
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Kids are a huge energy drain. But eventually they get to where they can run errands

Or cook dinner!

Hang in there, heebie. You've got a lot to deal with now, a lot of demands on your energy. One foot in front of the other, and eventually you come through on the other side.


Posted by: Di Kotimy | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 6:59 PM
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Nothing wrong with being solemn, or having a solemn season, once in a while, even if your natural default is more casual. Sometimes these things just run in cycles, and you've got a lot going on. So be kind to yourself! Best wishes for your mom's health.


Posted by: honigessig | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 7:15 PM
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I just want to tell you good luck. We're all rooting for you.


Posted by: Dr. Rumack | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 7:20 PM
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I just want to tell you good luck. We're all rooting for you.

Why thanks. I always unwind during big tourneys with Unfogged.


Posted by: Tiger | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 8:03 PM
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Being fun is overrated. Then you have to just keep being fun. Who needs it? Once you're boring, everyone expects that either way, so you can do what you want.


Posted by: text | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 9:30 PM
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Every single parent I know has had multiple "I can't go on like this" moments (that is, weeks) during the first two years. It does get easier as the little ones become less helpless.


Posted by: lw | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 9:41 PM
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Solemn seems appropriate. Not feeling like making light-hearted posts is more than OK. You have a lot going on and some of it is not fun. My thoughts are with you and your Mom and the rest of your family.

(Dr. Rumack, surely you know you've said that already?)


Posted by: md 20/400 | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 9:48 PM
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I know what I've said ... and don't call me Shirley.


Posted by: Dr. Rumack | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 9:59 PM
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The fish is good. Beware the veal.


Posted by: md 20/400 | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 10:10 PM
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Yes, yes, I remember, I had lasagna.


Posted by: Dr. Rumack | Link to this comment | 08-15-09 10:20 PM
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You're dealing with a lot right now -- do whatever you need to do. And if you do decide to post, remember that you don't always have to be "fun". This can be a place for serious topics you want to work through as well. No rules!


Posted by: Becks | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 2:27 PM
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You know what would be totally funny, though? If this post was called "Slalom but not poker, Face" and it was this whole story about how you were going to ski with Dirk Benedict but then you got to Vail and you were all decked out in your day-glo snowsuit (it was the 80s) but then he got there looking all haggard and it turned out he was a degenerate gambler and anyhow was completely insistent on staying in character even though the A-Team wasn't even on TV anymore so you said the titular line and then wackiness ensued. Maybe you could edit this post to make it more like that one?


Posted by: Sifu Tweety | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 2:36 PM
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22 is exactly right, but it should be called "Soleil button-on poker phased" (the story explains itself, I think).


Posted by: snarkout | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 2:41 PM
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Actually I mistyped it. It was supposed to be "Shalom, but not poultry force." Self-explanatory, as well.


Posted by: heebie-geebie | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 2:46 PM
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I'd guessed that it was supposed to be "Salem, but no Polk or fez", about the rejection of a version of The Crucible featuring new characters including a former US president and a Shriner.


Posted by: Jesus McQueen | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 3:00 PM
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Solomen butt-knots porker farce


Posted by: text | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 3:25 PM
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I, for one, like Serious Heebie.


Posted by: Jimmy Pongo | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 4:40 PM
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I like heebie in all her guises, and wish her and her mom well during this time.

Just let us know if you need us to notice any inadvertent depictions of cat erections, heebie, and we'll be there for you.


Posted by: Otto von Bisquick | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 4:47 PM
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So, limn Mobuto's knob hooker phrase


Posted by: text | Link to this comment | 08-16-09 4:56 PM
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Solomon Butternut poke our face.

Violent children's games involving carved squash.


Posted by: OFE | Link to this comment | 08-17-09 2:16 AM
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